What is the thing we want most in life? Why do we get out of bed everyday? What most of us yearn for is finding a period in time where the cosmos seem to come together and we feel genuinely happy. I'm going to call these moments particular moments.
Our society is set up in such a way that we are taught to believe that we must go through a gauntlet of tasks to reach one moment in time, and only then will we become happy and feel complete. We are moved along like cattle and told to keep the light at the end of the tunnel in sight. We always tell ourselves if I could only be there, If I only had this, If I had acted differently just this one time. I propose that this is a deeply troubling and dismantling way to live our lives.
I was talking to a friend the other day and asked him if he was happy. His answer was a calculation of all the things that were good and bad in his life, along with all the regrets and joys of life. This rational perspective of viewing happiness as a sum of life is destined to lead to feelings of inadequacy. Happiness is a in the moment feeling, you can be happy and in a terrible situation. happiness comes not from what surrounds you in life but from within. Allowing yourself to be happy is something Americans choose to deplete themselves of. Feeling unhappy becomes a weird state of being that we despise but yet for some unknown reason, we like it clouding our heads. (I propose that if we are unhappy, than we can avoid following are dreams and thus coming to terms with the truth of our personal realities).
Back to particular moments, the thing we want most in life, yet never seem able to achieve. The reasons for this are that we are always looking for are future selves where we will have more things and that we sum are happiness in a rational perspective that excludes the inner soul. These distracting components stop us from living a life full of joy. Particular moments can be reached any time and involve seeing the world with a lens of grace and beauty. One example can be reaching the top of a mountain. That is a particular moment but only if your not thinking about the next mountain you will climb, or how cool it will be to tell your friends. Particular moments are all around us and we just have to seize them.
As i told my friend,
"Stop thinking about doing it, and just go and do it."